Thursday, March 13, 2014

Our Hero

The kids both had a writing assignment for ELA to write about who their hero is. They both chose our good friend and home teacher Mark Ashton. 
I love how they realize what an amazing person Mark is and how he has been such an example to persevere despite adversity! He truly is the most Christlike person I know. His love, kindness and service throughout his battle with cancer has shown me how someone can truly emulate the Savior.
Just before his second surgery to reattach his esphogaus I sent Alyssa and Xander's essays to him. This is the email I got in response:

You guys just like to make me cry, don't you!!!! I truly wish I were half the man (hero) described in these wonderful essays, which I will treasure and cherish and try to live up to for the rest of my life. I love you all and thank you for your support, encouragement, and Christ-like compassion. I can't wait to get back to your home with some pastries or whatever you prefer (let me know). Love, blessings, health, and happiness to you all. YOU are in MY thoughts and prayers! -- Your friend and (I hope still) Home Teacher -- Mark

Alyssa's essay-
Alyssa Trueman                                      March 9, 2014
Long composition Topic #6
Hero is composed of four simple letters. Those letters may be simplistic, but the word hero itself certainly is not. A hero is one who inspires you to do great things and be like them; those four letters describe a friend of mine and my family, Mark Ashton. Mark is a person I admire because he has the most positive attitude that I have ever seen from a man. Another reason why I admire Mark is because he is a role model to me, he is someone that I want to be more like. The name Mark is spelled with four letters and so is that significant  word hero. 
My friend Mark Ashton is an incredible person. Mark works for a newspaper company called the Stone Bridge Press. He takes pictures for articles and he even has his own section in the newspaper to write his articles. Mark loves colonial history, he used to work at Old Sturbridge Village. He also loves to read books. Sadly my grandfathers passed away when I was a little girl and I feel as if Mark is my grandfather. Mark is a nice guy who is always willing to help others who are in need. One time he went out of his way to make us a pie when he was not feeling well. He has such a positive attitude. Mark does not complain about anything at all. Mark is a very loving person, he loves everyone no one is seen as bad through his eyes. Sadly, last year, Mark Ashton was diagnosed with esophageal cancer. It was very sad news for my family and me.
I admire many people and Mark Ashton is one of those many people. One quality that I admire in Mark is that he has the most positive attitude that I have seen from a man. The impact in my life that he has given to me is great, he inspires be to be more positive in my life. I like to think of him as a “trooper,” he has not complained once through his battle with cancer. He has gone through multiple chemotherapy and radiation treatments, surgery and still has to go through more, yet he always has a glass is half full attitude. Mark has gone through this process with such a positive attitude and he has been such a great example to me. Mark Ashton is an inspiration to me and that is the first reason why I admire Mark.
The second reason why I admire Mark is because he is a role model, he is someone that I want to strive to become. Mark has had a big impact in my life because I want to strive to become like him because he is willing to serve and be kind to others. He is always is kind to others and makes you feel good about yourself.  He is rarely seen without a smile on his face. My mom, Xander, and I went to see him in the hospital one night and he was severely cold and shaking frequently, and he still was smiling because he was so happy to see us. Mark is continually going out of his way to serve others. He is eager and willing to help others in need even though he is the one battling cancer. Most people have a tendency to be mean to others, but Mark is not mean to others he sees the great qualities that each person has to offer. That is why Mark Ashton is my hero.  
Heroes are not people that do “cool” things, heroes are the people that do those “cool” things and that inspire us to become more like them and people that we admire. Mark Ashton is someone I want to become more like and that I admire because he has the most positive attitude that I have seen from a man and he is a great role model. Mark Ashton is a really great guy and I admire and that I want to be more like him. I do not just call Mark Ashton my hero- he is my hero. 

Xander's essay
My Hero
By Xander Trueman block b
The definition of hero according to the dictionary is “A person, typically a man, who is admired or idealized for courage, outstanding achievements or noble qualities.”  We all know someone who is our own personal hero, each having these “noble qualities.”  My hero, some would consider an everyday person, who does not stand out for remarkable acts in the news, but, to me, Mark Ashton is an inspiration. He has inspired me in two main ways, his positive attitude and his selflessness.
 You are probably wondering who Mark Ashton is so let me tell you a little about him. Mark is a family friend who used to come over all the time. He works for the Stonebridge Press newspaper; he is a photographer and writer. Mark would always bring us cookies or cake or sometimes, if we were lucky, pastries! When he would come over he would always check up on our family to make sure we were doing well. He would also ask my family if we needed help with anything, every time he came over. We would always say the same thing, “No we’re good.” Then, after a brief church message and a short visit, we would say our good byes and he would go home. This all changed one day. Over the summer we found out that he had esophageal cancer or throat cancer. Mark could no longer drink or eat through his throat; he could only get food through an I.V. which is when liquid is delivered to the veins through plastic tubing. Since then Mark has had one surgery that was mostly successful. The surgeons have gotten all the cancer out, but they were not able to connect his esophagus back together. Right now Mark is building up his strength so he can have one more surgery to reconnect his throat and get on with living a normal life.
The first thing I admire about Mark is his positive attitude. I admire this because he has not once given up faith that everything will turn out all right. If I were him, I would be very sad and just be constantly complaining. But not Mark, he has never complained about his cancer; he has just kept pushing through. Another way I admire his positive attitude is that he went through multiple chemotherapy and radiation treatments and so many doctor’s visits with always having a good approach to all of this. Mark did not complain once throughout all of the chemo treatment or any of the doctor’s visits. The last way I admire his positive attitude is, after his first surgery, he had to stay in the hospital for over a month and a half. Then after that he had to stay in a rehabilitation center for another couple of weeks. This is important to me because is usually do not have a good attitude about a lot of things and Mark taught me how to have a good attitude.  Mark has always had a positive attitude, wherever life took him.
The second thing I admire about Mark is his selflessness. I admire this because when he was first diagnosed with cancer he would still come over and bring us treats even though he could not enjoy them with us. He would still ask if we needed help with anything even though we said no. He is always thinking about others and how he can help them. Another time Mark showed his selflessness was also when he was first diagnosed with cancer. At our church the youth are spilt up into two groups, Young Men, which I am in, and Young Woman which Alyssa, my sister, is in. One night, the Young Women asked Mark for his strawberry rhubarb pie recipe. Instead of giving the recipe to the girls, Mark baked a pie for them even though he could not taste it. The last way Mark showed his selflessness is when. We went to check on him in the hospital we asked him if we could do anything for him for a change. Mark did not ask anything for himself but instead he asked us to check on his wife and make sure she was ok. This has taught me to always put others first even if you are the one who needs help. Mark has gave me a good example of how to live and how to put others first.
      I wish I were more like Mark Ashton. Mark is definitely my hero in so many ways. The best ways are his incredibly positive attitude and his selflessness. Everyone has his or her own hero; mine is a selfless, noble man who has shown me what courage it takes to endure despite adversity. Whether your hero is Batman or your dad, your hero is special to you because of the qualities they have and the examples that they give you!  

Friday, February 28, 2014

North Conway

We got an extra 2 days added onto Winter break due to SNOW... imagine that?! 
We also got an extra 2 days added onto Christmas break. 
I'm really hoping the trend doesn't continue for Spring break! 
These kids will NEVER get out of 7th grade!

We headed on up to North Conway for a long weekend at the end of the break!
What more do you need than media, the dog and candy for a long car ride?

Certainly is a moose theme going on around here! This is in the nicest McDonalds we've ever been to in Meredith, NH. Must stop and say hello each visit.



Dinner at the Muddy Moose- both nights. Good food and fun times!


Friday it rainded so we shopped and went out to eat. 
Saturday is when the real fun began.



The next day we had limited time so the kids tubed. 


Another trip for Poquito. He loves to go on vacations
 even if he only gets to watch from afar and keep Lola company. 

I love this cute little bay in Meredith. They have so many ice houses out there. But the walkway is close enough for me! I have this totally unrealistic fear of being on ice and falling in.


Another great trip to North Conway... until next year!

Friday, February 7, 2014

Basketball season


It's been a loooooooong basketball season! 
2-3 games a week 2-3 practices...

Alyssa was so excited to make reserve on the basketball team. Her coach told her that if you work hard and prove yourself then you will get play time even if you're a reserve. So she decided to go for it. More time on the ball during practice would help to improve her skills right?! Well there were several practices where she watched for all of the one and one half very long hours! It was so frustrating for her to have to watch. She loves to be in on the action. Also the plays don't make as much sense when you are watching them executed as to when you are doing them. Practices improved and she was getting some play time. She got a few minutes of play time here and there usually at the very end of the game. Then our principal told coach that the reserves don't play. FINAL. 
So very frustrating! And very difficult to watch especially when we usually beat the other team by 40+ points. The starters had a great idea! The top 3 would sit out so that the playing field would be much more even and also so that the reserves could play. WOW! What a great group of girls! So a bit more play time was had, but her self confidence was a bit low and she was afraid to make mistakes. With less than 20 minutes total play time the entire season she was eager to show her stuff, but it's hard to get into a groove when you play for such a short amount of time.

I told my friends all I want for Alyssa is one basket.
 ONE. JUST ONE.

This week the opportunity to play came again because one of the starters was out sick. Coach told Alyssa that he was going to put her in and she would get a lot more play time. 
I was sitting in the stands and to my amazement see Alyssa come into the game in the latter half of the 2nd period and then again later in the game. WOO HOO she was finally getting a lot of play time and being able to prove herself! Alyssa has the ball she's looking around to see if she should pass and my friend Lori (daughter's also a reserve so we are totally in sync) yells SHOOT IT!!!!
She shoots it's IN!!!!
I stomp my feet on the benches punch my fist in the air and scream YES!!!!!!! I was so elated! I could feel my face flush with excitement and joy and pride!
I text Paul-

It took me several times to type it because I was so excited and trying to watch the game and text at the same time.  

Afterwards I was still on cloud nine! So happy for her and for the way the season has come to an end!
 I texted some of my friends and family-

"Okay ladies I have to share a proud mama moment with you- not only did Alyssa get to play ~8 minutes in the basketball game she SCORED A BASKET!!!!! It made my heart sooo happy! It's been such a tough season with her being reserve and never getting to really prove herself...until tonight. That's all I wanted to come out of this season and it happened!! I was so proud of her. Okay I'm done thanks for listening! And yes I'm still beaming! It's the little things, right?!"

Ditch diving

You know that perfect snow day that I was raving about? 
Well it didn't turn out as I expected. 
The kids were invited to go snowboarding with some friends and I thought I'd be nice and drop them off at their friend's house. It was the least I could do since George was taking both my kiddos. All was good. I dropped them off and was just out of their driveway when I must have hit a rut and the next thing I know my car is pulled over to the side and gets stuck in a ditch! 



UGH!!! I try my best to get out before George and the kids see me. 
NOPE! NOT GONNA HAPPEN! 

The kids and George pull up next to me see my predicament and all get out and try to help me by pushing my massively huge SUV. This made me very NERVOUS! What if something went wrong and I ran over someone. After a few attempts and lots of tire spinning I sent them on their way to go have fun! 

I called AAA and waited with my good friend and her other son 
who walked out to meet me and keep me company. 

After many attempts the huge tow truck was able to pull me out and off I went. 
Amazingly enough not a dent, scratch or any evidence that I was practically sideways in a ditch. 


Well I guess the impacted snow in my wheel wells and inbetween the door were a bit of an indication. Seriously so grateful for the help from the AAA driver and from my guardian angel. 
Nothing was hurt, but my pride. It's good to be humbled sometimes...

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

FINALLY
a GREAT SNOW DAY!
 The snow is perfect and falling fast, the temps are not sub zero
 and the kids have made a run in the backyard that they can board on. 
Hey maybe we don't need to pay for lift tickets anymore?! Yah, right. I wish.





Lola loves it too so she can be included in all the fun!


Monday, February 3, 2014

Hangry


I saw this sign and thought of Xander. It fits him to a T! 
Sometimes he's not allowed to talk to me until he gets food in his belly. 
He is quite a mean guy when he is hungry and nothing good or kind comes out of his mouth
 until it is filled... then he turns back into regular old Xander. 
 (Kinda like those snickers commercials.)

Soccer tourney

(Finally got to the end of the year! It's only February 3, 2014 now... Oh well at least I got it done!)

December 30th, 2013
Alyssa and her soccer team entered a tournament over Christmas break.
 It started at 7 AM!
In Rhode Island!
Which is about 40 minutes away!

So totally worth it though!
 The girls played 6 games and ended up coming in second in the championship. 
They only lost by 1 point. They worked hard and did a fantastic job!



They girls got together unbeknownst to Alyssa and decided to give her the trophy. 
She was SO surprised and touched! She couldn't believe how nice and thoughtful that was!